Top 25 Laura Wasser Quotes

Just as you go to the gym regularly to keep your body fit, regular couples counseling can keep your relationship fit as well.

A woman – even if she is the primary breadwinner – really needs to keep in mind that at some point, she may have a diminished earning capacity because of the fact that she will bear children. Of course, this is case by case. I had two kids, and it didn’t really slow me down at all.

Dissolution and custody matters are the great equalizers. Having done this for a while, you do realize that everybody has the same issues. It doesn’t matter how much money you have or how much power you have, you are always afraid you’re never going to see your child.

You don’t want to move in with someone and find out that they don’t have auto or health insurance. That’s a rude awakening.

I don’t know that human beings were meant to mate for life or be monogamous. But, for me, the aspect of marriage that is troubling is that it’s a contract that is governed by the state, and I don’t want the state to have control over my personal affairs.

My go-to jeans are old Levi’s I’ve gotten from boyfriends; they’re worn-in and really yummy and perfect.

Evening bags should be just big enough for my phone, lipstick, house key, and credit card.

Sometimes, just the act of venting is helpful. Counseling provides a safe haven for precisely that kind of free-ranging release: You can say things in the therapist’s office, with the therapist present, that would be incendiary or hurtful in your living room.

One client’s wife managed to steam the labels off all of the several hundred bottles in her husband’s prestigious wine collection, so the collection was worthless. The husband hosted ‘What’s that wine?’ dinner parties.

In seeking a lawyer, you are looking for an advocate, an expert advisor on the law and on your rights and responsibilities, a strategist, a negotiator, and a litigator.

Conversations about money certainly are not sexy, but they should give each of you some clarity and enable you to enter into your marriage with a better understanding of each other and what is important. Work and home responsibilities, joint or separate accounts, budgets, etc. are all subjects which should be discussed.

For me, I don’t participate in the filming when I represent a reality show star in a case, because that would mean waiving my right to attorney-client privilege, and that would hamper my ability to mount an effective case.

Couples counseling gets many couples back together. But not all, and not always. For your own sake and that of your children, however, I recommend it – I almost insist on it – as the first step for anyone unhappy in a relationship.

I represent celebrities, but I am not a celebrity.

Many states favor joint custody.

I don’t try to be sexy, but I do want to look as good as I can.

To find a pool of lawyers from whom to choose, solicit referrals from other professionals you know or deal with – an accountant, banker or business leader. Check out Bar Association listings as well, and don’t neglect Internet research.

There is probably no such thing as a good divorce, but clinging to an old idea of how relationships are unraveled can make a bad thing even worse.

My dad once said that in criminal law you see terrible people on their best behavior; in family law you see great people on their worst behavior.

Especially where financial matters are concerned, when it comes to dissolving a marriage, any dissembling at all is strictly against the law – on penalty of perjury. You need to disclose fully and factually, which is precisely what the discovery process is all about.

I’m known for having crazy shoes. I have a total Napoleon complex – I’m only 5’4″, and every heel I have is four inches or more.

I’m not a divorce monger by any means, but if you’re not happy in a relationship, and you’ve grown apart, it’s not healthy for a couple to stay together. It’s better for kids to see two happy parents than two miserable parents.

There’s something about sitting face-to-face with an attorney in an office that enables people to come to grips with the very idea of divorce – or to reconsider the idea. Like a number of my colleagues – not all – I offer that preliminary consultation for free.

As a society, we’ve evolved, and we’ve recognized that the American family structure has undergone enormous changes. Divorce is all around us, and who among us doesn’t know someone who is divorced or has been impacted by divorce. It’s not as scandalous as it was.

Everybody should get married – once. I was 25.